So, you've found your fish in this vast sea of life, and you're gearing up for the big day that will mark the start of your own personal fairy tale. Amidst the floral arrangements, cake tastings, and seating charts, there's one task that stands out as the most heartfelt and personal: writing your wedding vows. Pull up a chair, grab a glass of wine and be prepared to use your imagination, because we're about to embark on a journey into the emotional world of crafting vows that will make your "I dos" unforgettable.
Before you start penning your heartfelt promises, dive into the treasure trove of romantic movies, love stories, and even those sappy Hallmark cards you secretly cherish. Take notes on the phrases that tug at your heartstrings and evoke the kind of emotions that will make Aunt Martha reach for her tissues. Remember, you're not copying; you're simply borrowing a little inspiration from the universe of love. If you're ever stuck for a line or two, Pinterest is filled with beautiful (if not generic) vows you can pull from and spice up.
Skip the Clichés
Let's be real—no one wants to hear you promise to "always love each other through thick and thin." It's like promising to eat cake at a wedding; it's a given. Instead, put your own spin on the classics. How about, "I promise to love you even when you leave the cap off the toothpaste, and to cherish you as much as I cherish that last slice of pizza"? Take inspiration from your actual life, poke fun at some of your loved ones sillier habits, it's guaranteed to make the whole thing feel a lot more personal.
Inside Jokes and Shared Moments
Remember that time you got caught singing in the shower? Or the impromptu dance party in your pyjamas? These moments, seemingly small, are the threads that weave the fabric of your unique bond. Incorporate them into your vows for a dash of humour and nostalgia that will have everyone smiling and nodding in agreement. It doesn't just have to be small personal moments, if your spouse has an infamous story amongst your friends then get a chuckle from the congregation by playfully bringing it up.
Look to the Future
While the present is undoubtedly important, your vows are also a promise for the future. Dream a little dream together in your vows. Whether it's promising to support each other's career changes or planning grand adventures, it's these aspirations that give your vows a sense of unity in the journey ahead.
Keep It Real
Sure, you could dive into the realm of Shakespearean sonnets and Elizabethan eloquence, but if that's not your style, don't force it. The key is authenticity. Speak from the heart, in your own words. If you're a modern-day comedian, let your vows reflect that. If you're a hopeless romantic, channel that energy. Remember, this is your love story, not a performance.
Practice, Practice, Practice
Once you've conjured up the perfect blend of humour, sentiment, and personal anecdotes, it's time to practice. Stand in front of a mirror, grab your significant other for a mock ceremony, or even recite them to your furry friend who will undoubtedly be the most attentive listener. Practising will help you find the right rhythm and make sure those words flow effortlessly when the big day arrives. There's also no shame in having them written in a little notebook or on a piece of paper, in the heat of the moment when you're so overwhelmed with emotion it can be natural to forget what you were planning to say, having your script to hand can be an added comfort that you may not even have to use. Just don't read them off your phone!
Embrace the Emotion
When the moment comes to share your vows in front of your loved ones, don't be surprised if your voice wavers and your eyes mist up. This is the moment you've been building up to—the moment where you lay your heart bare and make promises that will shape your forever. So, embrace the tears, the laughter, and the love that fills the room. And be due to stock your wedding party a packet of tissues beforehand that they can subtly slip to you as you speak.