Although planning a wedding brings out the ultimate control-freak in us ladies, sometimes in the midst of all the chiffon/cake tasting/table favours/guest lists, we can forget the groom and his opinions even exist. Taking the time to plan your wedding day as a couple can not only take some of the stress off the bride’s shoulders, but inclusion could also mean a lot to your husband-to-be; and who knows, his ideas may just turn your ‘perfect’ wedding day into something far more spectacular.
Be clear and concise
Have you ever stopped to think that maybe your groom doesn’t realise he’s allowed to be involved in the wedding plans? As the tradition goes, the bride mulls over every decision and plans each detail meticulously to ensure she creates the day of her dreams, but maybe your groom would like some input on the most important day of his life too.
Hand over some of the control (as much as it pains you) to your partner and be very clear on the responsibilities he holds. Ask his opinion throughout, and take inspiration from his strengths in life. If he’s a music buff, put him in charge of the playlist. If maths is his strongpoint, assign him the task of keeping a watchful eye over the budget.
This way, your husband-to-be will feel his expertise is needed and you have more time on your hands to pamper yourself in the run-up to your big day.
Let the groom deal with his family
The one task your groom should undoubtedly be responsible for is dealing with his family. A wedding day must take into account the likes and personalities of both families as they join together as one, and by subtly assigning your groom this task, it makes for a far calmer wedding day.
Your in-laws are bound to be full of opinions on how to best run the wedding day, so to avoid an almighty clash with the opposite side, prep your groom in advance for any problems that may arise. This way, your fiancé will feel involved in the proceedings and you can avoid a stand-up row with your monsters-in-law.
His opinion matters
You may think the groom doesn’t give a second thought to the wedding day and laugh off any opinions provided by your hubby-to-be, but the truth of the matter is, it’s a day to be shared and enjoyed between you both, as much as the idea of taking over completely is tempting.
Support and encourage any ideas given to you by your fiancé, even if you find them totally ridiculous. To avoid any clashes, sit down as early in the planning process as possible and create a shared vision of your day; this will give you something to work towards together. Who knows, you could uncover the secret wedding planner in your husband-to-be, meaning you can sit back and relax whilst he fusses over the perfect colour scheme.
- Michelle Storey
Image credits: Flowers: Erin Hearts Photography via Style Me Pretty | Groom 1: Pinterest | Boho couple: Pinterest | Bride and groom: Taylor Lord | Groom 2: Honey Buy | Kiss: Studio 1208 via Bridal Musings