Pre-wedding jitters are a natural part of getting married. Cold feet are commonly associated with the groom, but they’re just as common for the bride. Suddenly that walk up the aisle seems very long. But it doesn’t mean you’re doing the wrong thing or you don’t love your partner, or even that you’re not ready for marriage. Mostly, it’s just nerves. Don’t worry, we have some ways you can calm those nerves before you get into (or out of) the car.

bride and groom

Take deep breaths

We know it sounds naff, but if you just stop for a minute, close your eyes and take three deep breaths, you will relieve some of your stress and relax. Repeat this process every time you start to feel a knot building up.

Think about why you’re doing this

This may sound like the thing you’re nervous about and therefore not a good idea but really focus your thoughts. Think of all the reasons you love your partner. Think of when you said yes. Think of all the things you have in common. Think of your favourite things about them. Before you know it, you’ll be raring to go down the aisle once again with no cold feet in sight.

bride and groom kiss


There are lots of things to worry and stress about on the morning of the wedding. If you’re already feeling some natural cold feet, you don’t need to be stressed more by things like whether or not the flowers are in the car. Make sure your mam, sister or bridesmaids have a list of things to check on the morning and don’t worry about it anymore; it’s their job to worry about those things for you.

Have a lavender bath

Allow time in the morning for a quick 15-20 minute lavender bath. Lavender is renowned for melting your stress away. It’s proven for having a calming effect on the body. Add a cup of hot water and lemon to drink while you’re soaking to kick-start your metabolism and you’ll be set for a stress-free morning.

Bride and groom with a white wedding bike

Laughter is the best medicine

Laughter relaxes your body and releases stress-fighting substances in your body. Make sure you have someone on hand to keep you giggling and let your nerves melt away. Even have some comedy on reserve for a serious need to laugh.

- Jenny Darmody

Image credit: Kiss: Mindy Bean Photography